5 Success Benchmarks for Mid Lifers [in my own words]


Fellow Midlifer, are you frustrated with how Your life is panning out? Are you lacking certainty about your future, struggling for Purpose, perhaps down on inspiration? Then get in touch with me right away… I will help you with practical solutions, so that you CAN be more assured, achieve what you want & create the better days that you deserve. The right Solutions & Support are life changing, as well as adding tremendous Value … and you do like value, don’t you? …  So stop sinking and start swimming, Today!


The definition of “Success” will vary from person to person. And it will likely vary depending on the stage of life that you are currently in.

The years between 40 and say 65 are often reflective of our level of “personal success”.

When you enter your forties,  you are either building on what you created in earlier years or looking to create something [entirely] different.

Either way, your questioning thoughts may look something like this :

New horizons … how wide and far am I prepared to go?

Legacies to be left … what will I be remembered for? … by my family, my friends, my acquaintances

Personal achievements … what will make me proud?

Family …. how will I continue to care for them? What will they think of me?

Future retirement … will I be safe?

Purpose … what purposeful initiatives/actions will fulfill me? … and will they provide for myself and my loved ones?

And if you are venturing, or considering to venture, into ‘something new’ for your life, then some of the questions listed above, will have an exclamation! mark attached as well.

And it’s the exclamation! that excites you as well as fears you. Take a risk, be Bold … I hear your inner voice whisper.

Which leads me to the benchmarks+++++++++++

Risk taking a step or staying put  sameness is debilitating especially when you are ‘stuck’. You are often ‘stuck’ because you can’t get yourself to take a step “beyond” because you are afraid of what might happen. The “fear” outweighs any “reward” in your eyes. Pity. Taking a step doesn’t have to be lonely. You can seek help from someone who will step with you … guide you along the path that you desire.

Think Beyond … your thinking can be contained [or trapped] within a box … a box where the key has been lost. So your thoughts are restricted, they have boundaries. And when you send them out, looking for solutions, they bounce off the walls of this box and return to you as an echo … again & again. Thinking beyond will start to crack the walls of this “box” and penetrate into wider spaces. Solutions will become more abundant and your thoughts more vibrant!

Have a back up plan … Plan B is essential. All your effort goes toward your “something”. If that doesn’t work then what happens? You are a 40 something, you have a lot ahead of you. And a lot to excite you. Plan A may not work first time, Plan B can be a revisitation of Plan A. What I’m really trying to reinforce is this … don’t have the Big Master plan without any fallback. The ‘Master Plan’ may not be a step by step directory of how your life “will” be. It may be your major dreams, goals or aspirations or even being in the Big flow of Life.

Remember, things don’t always go to plan, so never give up ... that’s the bottom line here.  If your plan[whatever that is for you] is big enough, then it deserves to be seen through. Untitled15

The only ‘Safety’ is knowing your next step … Standing still is rarely a good option. As with my first point, knowing that you can take a step [with help if necessary], moves you from possible “stuck” to probable opportunity. There is little that is guaranteed in life. When things go awry, you need to step with surety to a place with more possibilities and go forward capabilities. Instead of hoisting the white flag of surrender, step away to your next safe haven.

Love what you do, Love who you are … a “no brainer” really. You can’t love everything that you do. However you can make a mighty attempt. When the love is there, the right flow of things follows.

To illustrate my point, flip this around. When you hate what you do, how does this make you feel? Apart from miserable that is. You are stuck in muck. There appears no way out. And that’s a poor position to find yourself in.

Find something that you love, that you are good at and everything will blossom.  Simple? … not always. However, if you can’t move from your current “job” for whatever reason, look to re-frame it. Change your angle of perception. Drill down a bit for there may be aspects of your “job”, with a little polish, you can learn to love. Work on this, find the benefits. You’ve got to find some love here otherwise …………

And finally, “Love who you are”. Many have written on this subject, many who are better versed than I.

I have found that there is definite merit in loving who you are … it simply makes sense. The earlier you find this out the better. Because then you have the time to polish yourself and flourish into the Diamond that you are meant to be.

And we are all Diamonds, some just have different cuts.

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  • Cathy Taughinbaugh October 9, 2013, 8:20 pm

    Great tips here for mid lifers, David. I changed directions in my early fifties when I stopped teaching and somewhat stumbled onto blogging and coaching. I love the work and realized that sometimes doors open for us when we least expect it.

    • David Stevens October 9, 2013, 8:50 pm

      Thanks for contributing Cathy,
      There are always doors to be opened and you’ve done just that … congrats
      Be good to yourself

  • Elle October 9, 2013, 9:53 pm

    Great post David – we are all diamonds, some just have different cuts. Brilliant my friend…pun intended.

    • David Stevens October 9, 2013, 11:17 pm

      Yep, that’s about it Elle.
      Thanks for your support and …
      be good to yourself

  • richmiraclefiles October 13, 2013, 2:36 pm

    Hi David
    So often we all tend to reach out to the external goodies of life.In fact that is all we mostly do,that is all what concerns most of us.The wealth,the abundance the glitz,the cars,the money ,and the power and the insane pull of the external glamour is all that motivates us.
    The story is not very different across cultures,countries,or continents. Human life revolves around a lot of aspiration.Yet we never stop to think that millions,and zillions of people have come before us on this planet.They have come,and they have gone.All of them bothered with the same pursuits that concern us today.And the legacy will continue.
    We need to take a break from the socially indoctrinated sense of purpose.We need to question ourselves about what we are upto.And here i agree with you,David,that in our mid lives we stand at a very critical cusp of decision making.Tha’s because we are already over a “bump” of four plus decades and another 4 odd decades(averaging out) beckon to us.So we all have the benefit of years working for us.

    • David Stevens October 13, 2013, 9:18 pm

      Thank You Mona,
      Mid Life can be the start of the ‘icing on the cake’ or the start of a fresh, inspiring ‘new’ life. That’s what I love about it.
      Be good to yourself