The Power of “When”


The world is full of “ifs, buts and maybe’s”.

You have the choice to change that.

Let me introduce you to the power of “when”.

Decisions, choices…we all have them to make. Decisions and choices about how you live your life are super-important. Often the time factor is critical. You may not know this at the time, however it usually is. Often again, you and I find this out later when we reflect on opportunities lost, on regrets etc,

 ‘When’ is decisive. ‘When’ is committment.

Sure, we need to “examine the landscape” before we decide. Spontaneity can be tremendous however I understand that you maynot want to jump straight in to every Life changing decision that you face. However you need to put a time frame on this. It’s too easy to push things aside and “maybe” make a decision later. Later may be too late.

Bringing “when” into your thought processes adds the urgency needed to decide and act upon the important things in your Life. Your Life moves forward, it doesn’t stagnate. “When” makes the timing right.

How many times have you heard someone say…”it’s not the right time…”. A sneaky excuse. Either do it or don’t. It’s rarely the right time.

So, as choices and decisions confront you, commit to  “when”.

Put a timeframe on your decision. Decide, choose, move on.

When is a happening thing. It is now. It is permanent. It is positive.

Using ‘when’ also adds confidence to your Life. “If I achieve this…” seems so much better phrased as “when I achieve this…”

“Is my life going to get better” more appropriately phrased as “When my life gets better”

“When” is vitality. “When” erases doubt.

So, instead of delaying action with “if, but, maybe”, introduce when… you will see some amazing changes in your Life. Things will HAPPEN. You will have time to do stuff that is IMPORTANT.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this.

be good to yourself


Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

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  • Betsy/Zen Mama January 11, 2013, 9:39 pm

    I love it! I have so often put things off but this last year I’ve tried to do everything when I think of it. My husband calls it “Touch it once.” What a great way to start the new year!
    Thanks David!

    • David Stevens January 12, 2013, 12:10 am

      Thanks very much Betsy
      I’m sure your year will be a blast
      be good to yourself

  • Sandi Amorim January 11, 2013, 10:11 pm

    Love it David, and we are so on the same page with this! I remind clients all the time to give their ‘someday’s a date 🙂

    • David Stevens January 12, 2013, 12:09 am

      Absolutely Sandi,
      It’s a reminder worth giving…again & again. Thankyou for being here
      be good to yourself

  • Elle January 12, 2013, 12:13 pm

    So true David. I find that by asking myself when, my mind tends to answer ‘now’ so it helps me stay in the now.

    I’d like to be able to tell you that then I do everything ‘now’ but that would be telling a porky pie. The question when, however, creates clarity for me.

    Love Elle

    • David Stevens January 12, 2013, 11:27 pm

      Thankyou Elle,
      Don’t put off the important things…
      be good to yourself

  • Cathy Taughinbaugh January 12, 2013, 6:25 pm

    Hi David,

    I love the power of “when.” Tick tock goes the time and if we don’t do it now, then (great question) when? Thanks for the reminder. I need that today!

    • David Stevens January 12, 2013, 11:26 pm

      Glad it hit the spot for you Cathy, thankyou
      be good to yourself

  • Hiten January 13, 2013, 7:11 pm

    Hi David,

    Powerful messages, indeed.

    I felt inspired reading your post. You explained the power of “when” beautifully.

    Such a simple switch in language, which has a big impact on our mood. “When” is action-orientated. It also provides us with quiet confidence that it isn’t a matter of “if” we achieve what we want. It is “when”, which implies we will do it.

    • David Stevens January 13, 2013, 9:50 pm

      Thankyou Hiten,
      “When” is powerful…appreciate your kind words
      be good to yourself

  • Harriet Cabelly January 13, 2013, 10:57 pm

    “When” tells our brain we’re doing it, no if’s ands or buts. It’s like getting rid of the word, ‘try’. I’m not going to try to do it, I’m going to do it. It’s a definitive statement of action.
    This is a really important concept of a proactive and action-oriented mindset. Love it. Thank you.

    • David Stevens January 13, 2013, 11:46 pm

      Hi Harriet,
      That’s great…’when’ certainly is proactive…it’s a great vway to be. Thanks for being here
      be good to yourself

  • Glynis Jolly January 14, 2013, 2:05 pm

    I have found that the word, when, has a tendency to make me procrastinate. “When my ship come in.” For me, I must immediately start the process of acting on what I want to do or what I need to do in order to get any momentum going. Of course, this could put a small damper on planning, but for me, it is the only way I can get things done that are important to me.

    • David Stevens January 15, 2013, 1:14 am

      Hi Glynis,
      Like many words that we use, the meaning can differ. Looking for positive usage of words, such as “when” will shed new light.
      be good to yourself