The Art of getting it together – a practical exercise


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You have many challenges in life. Some you will overcome (hopefully many), some you simply will not overcome.

These particular challenges will thwart you because of either of reasons …..

  1.  you don’t have the skill to overcome them
  2. you don’t have the willpower to overcome them
  3. The Universe got in the way
  4. some things are meant to be (must be that “Universe” again)
  5.  you give up

For most of us, 1. 2. & 5. are the relevant ones,  I won’t dwell on 3. & 4. for now.

If you do want to overcome your challenges, then point 1. is salvageable. People with the will to overcome obstacles will get it together.

You may need help, however if you have the “will” to overcome then you will seek out all options to do so. And that will set you apart from others.

‘The Art of getting it together’  comes from your very own Willpower, that is:

The power of frustration … “I’ve had enough, I won’t put up with this anymore”

The power of wanting more in your life … “I can do better”

Skills can be learned. You may not have them at the moment however someone who does have them can teach you. Or, you make the extra effort to learn them yourself. I’ve certainly been in both categories … and still am.

When you don’t have the willpower (won’tpower) then you are at the mercy of whatever comes your way. Some will flow with this and say “what the heck” or “I’m in the flow” (of whatever) AND some will simply get swept away (and complain immeasurably).

This is where The Universe  does  play a huge part ….. you have the power of Choice. You choose to take positive action or not. I can only suggest that you try the positive and inject some Willpower.

Those who “give up” have at least initially tried. They have had crack and that’s worthy. If this is you, then more than likely your willpower has run out of steam or you have lacked support. The good news for you is that there is a glimmer of hope. In fact there is a rainbow of hope.Blog20

When you read this, do something for me. Reach out. You need a confidence boost, a shot of energy, an embrace of hope. There is someone out there who will support you through this. Reach out for the rainbow …. all the colours thereof exemplify the amount of options open to you.

Giving up is a poor option though I can understand that frustration plays huge in your life. It gets the better of me at times.

So, what is the answer?

When I have a target, goal, dream, desire that IS strong enough, emotional enough and important enough … I will work to see it through. The timeframe isn’t that important, the “will” to get it done, is ….. because it’s that important.

You can do the same, I am sure.

Please feel free to share your thoughts here and via your favourite Social Media.

Be good to yourself


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  • Victor September 20, 2013, 3:29 pm

    Hi David,

    How timely — I was just talking about the “power of choice” to a group of people yesterday. I agree — sometimes we feel that we are powerless to our environment, as if the big universe is something we can’t manipulate. It’s like we are just a piece that’s thrust into it. We forget that we are a part of the universe, and it can be manipulated through our choices. It’s powerful. Thanks for this message.

    • David Stevens September 21, 2013, 12:05 am

      Hi Victor,
      Yes, ‘choice’ is powerful. Pity that so many don’t exercise it. Appreciate your comment and support.
      Be good to yourself

  • Fran Sorin September 22, 2013, 2:25 pm

    You make some excellent points. I’ve told me children from the time they were young that there is a solution to every obstacle – that giving up is not an option for MOST things.

    I love your words on reaching out. As soon as I finish commenting, I will be having my weekly ‘spiritual coaching’ call with a colleague/friend. It is very powerful and gives me tremendous strength. Fran

    • David Stevens September 22, 2013, 10:23 pm

      Hi Fran,
      Thank You for reaching out here with your continued support and kind words.
      Be good to yourself

  • Susan September 23, 2013, 2:27 pm

    I have a 21yr old son who has an awful life all of his own doing. He has ADHD and possible Bi-polar. He started doing drugs at age 13. He has been in numerous treatment centers. He can’t get jobs due to background checks. He sees no future for his self. He doesn’t know why God let him be born. He sees no light at the end of the tunnel.

    • David Stevens September 23, 2013, 10:23 pm

      Hi Susan,
      That sounds tough … and I’m sure it’s tough on you as well. I can only suggest that you support him as best you can and ask for help when you need it (I’m sure you are already doing this).
      Be good to yourself

  • Betsy/Zen Mama September 24, 2013, 3:33 am

    I don’t like the idea of giving up. I’d rather say I’m waiting until later!! 🙂 And I, too, believe that the Universe is a big part of life but I think attitude can certainly influence it.
    Thanks for the inspiration!

    • David Stevens September 24, 2013, 4:59 am

      Hi Betsy,
      Thank You for your thoughts here …waiting & re grouping can be a fine strategy at times.
      Be good to yourself

  • Stuart Young September 24, 2013, 11:44 am

    Nice post David – we all like to bob down the river of life like a cork from time to time. But the minute we have a destination in mind we need to know how to steer. You help create a rudder David – keep up the good work. 🙂

    • David Stevens September 24, 2013, 9:00 pm

      Thanks Stuart,
      I appreciate your comments. Thanks for the support.
      Be good to yourself

  • jamie flexman September 26, 2013, 10:53 am

    For me, willpower isn’t enough. Motivation comes and goes so I think the only true choice is to become disciplined, not motivated.

    Willpower forms through habits and that’s what keeps us going on those days when we don’t feel like it or those occasions where we doubt ourselves.

    • David Stevens September 26, 2013, 9:58 pm

      Hi Jamie,
      Good point, we are all different in our approach to life’s circumstances. I have always struggled with discipline … maybe it’s the word though it works for many, hopefully for you.
      Be good to yourself and thank you for contributing