Kicking your Goals & setting your Direction in 2013 … the How’s & Why’s


Welcome to the first posting at my new site…I hope you enjoy

We’ve all heard about Goals and  New Years resolutions. Each year around this time, we hear about them again. Assuming we all survive 21 December, you will very likely hear a lot more about them.

Goal setting is not everyone’s cup of tea, however there are great reasons to set yourself short, medium and long term goals. Now I’m not talking about any sort of goal.

What I would like to convey with this post is the ability to have goals that contain real meaning for you. Goals that you feel you must achieve as if your Life depends on it…and it probably does. Coming toward the end of 2012, it may well be timely to have a look at your current goals and/or set new ones.

These types of goals will define you as a person. These types of goals will be the stepping stones or building blocks for you to build the Life that you want. These goals will be a delight to work on, not a chore.

If there is to be a problem area that people will struggle with in setting goals and the process of working toward achievement…it’s a lack of ongoing motivation.

Setting goals with true meaning will add the vital ingredient that is often missing. I often ask my clients to list the reasons for each goal they wish to set. It may be one goal or several…it may be one reason or several. Then I ask what it will mean to them when they achieve it. Some are excited, some are unsure. If there is a lack of real meaning, the goal process will likely falter.

I find that a great barometer for achieving goals is the level of importance that one places on it’s achievement. If it’s a must achieve at any cost Life goal then the achievement is already assured. Most goals that are successfully achieved are done so at the setting stage. When the level of importance, true meaning and the desire are high, the level of excitement is maintained throughout the goal timeframe.

If however, a goal is set for ‘any old reason” or the goal is not really yours because you are setting one to satisfy someone else or you think that “you just have to do it” then failure is likely.  Care… New Years Resolutions are a classic case in point.

You need to take ownership of your goal/s. When you can see yourself with the goal achieved (vision) then you are at least half way there. Being accountable for the steps that need to be taken is paramount…don’t let yourself down. If you find this difficult at times (and it does happen, you are only human afterall) then get someone to “monitor” you and celebrate your steps toward success with you.  A Life Coach maybe?

“Setting the scene” for your goal achievement ignites your excitement and helps maintain this right through to the end. Owning your goal helps you nourish it and fire up your enthusiasm…you can’t lose.

I mentioned earlier that “Goals are not everyone’s cup of tea”. Fair enough. Goals get a bad rap sometimes. Many feel that they set themselves up for failure. So they decide that it’s too hard.

When set correctly, the right type of goals will get you heading in the right direction… and direction is ever so important here. When you know where you are going, the right goals will add the stepping stones for you to follow your path. I have found and so have a number of my clients, that designing a bigger picture of where you want to be, what you want to be doing, months or years down the track is great motivation. You then work backwards, setting & achieving the goals that are necessary to “fill in the gaps”. Always keeping the end game in mind is in itself a great motivator.

At the very least, know where you are going or work it out…get someone to help you if you are unsure. It will make a great difference to your Life.

So how have you found Goals? Have they worked for you? Have you had any difficulty achieving your goals? What successes have you had? Do you have plans and direction for a Big 2013? Please feel free to share in the comments section below.

Be good to yourselves


Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

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  • Angela Artemis|Powered by Intuition December 20, 2012, 12:59 am

    I love the new site! Excellent.
    Great advice about setting goals too. I find that I achieve more when I write down my goals.
    All my best to you dear friend,

    • David Stevens December 20, 2012, 5:16 am

      Thankyou Angela,
      I’ve gone for a clean, fuss free site. Yes, committing your goals to paper re inforces your goal and is a handy reference tool.
      Thanks for being here.
      be good to yourself

  • Janet December 20, 2012, 1:21 am

    I’ve been trying to get more into goals and planning with a yearly planner. It’s something I’ve never been able to keep on track with, as I’ll always buy nice looking planners but then abandon them. But I’m starting to see the benefits of goals even if I still prefer rephrasing them into words like ‘intentions’. I plan for a successful and more productive 2013! Going pro in my biz. 🙂

    • David Stevens December 20, 2012, 5:21 am

      Hi Janet,
      Nice to meet you. Using a ‘planner’ is nice however it is You that will get the ball rolling, not the planner. Start with the intention then work on it, daily…little by little if necessary. I find a good method is to write down where you see yourself in 12 months time…what position you want to be in Life. If your “intent” is strong enough, then you will make a start.
      be good to yourself

  • Vidya Sury December 20, 2012, 5:34 am

    What a beautiful site, David. Love it!

    Goal setting has always been an important part of my life. Initially it was simply about getting the essentials to survive, (school fees, subsistence) but gradually, it helped focus efforts on anything I realistically aimed to achieve. Today, I am a confirmed list fan and use a regular large diary where I write everything down, setting time frames. I’ve found that managing our time well on a day to day basis with mini goals always takes care of the big ones – making changes if necessary along the way.

    🙂 I am a happy person, regardless of how certain things work out because I accept the responsibility for how it turned out. Life is good. And made much better when I read your post. I love how you get things across in a simple yet effective way.

    P.S.: Love your photograph.

    Happiness to you, always, David. Love, Vidya

    • David Stevens December 20, 2012, 10:05 pm

      Thankyou Vidya,
      I have aimed to have the site clean & fuss free…hope your goals and dreams come true
      be good to yourself

  • Elle December 20, 2012, 12:17 pm

    Love the new site David, many congratulations on it. What a great point about keeping the end in mind. Deciding where I ended up is the only way I can begin. Really like the way you put it here.

    Love Elle

    • David Stevens December 20, 2012, 10:04 pm

      Thankyou Elle
      If we have an end game…then we have a direction
      be good to yourself

  • Cathy Taughinbaugh December 21, 2012, 12:36 am

    Hi David –

    Wow – Love your new site. It looks great!

    I do think setting goals is important. Goals help us identify what we are striving for and what we need to change to get there. It also helps us understand what is not working in our life. We can set too many goals at the beginning of the new year. It may be better to take one doable goal at a time, so that we can feel the sense of accomplishment and growth.

    Have a wonderful holiday and congrats on your new site!

    • David Stevens December 21, 2012, 2:22 am

      Hi Cathy,
      Thankyou. Well set goals will achieve the desired results. One of the keys is to set yourself up for success…not failure. Big or small, this key still applies.
      be good to yourself

  • Hiten December 22, 2012, 10:46 pm

    Hi David,

    I think your new website looks great!

    I really enjoyed your post on goals. There were two points in your post, which I appreciated in particular.

    One is asking ourselves what achieving our goals will mean to us. If the meaning is powerful enough, we will strive to achieve the goals. Secondly, being accountable for our goals is also very important. As you say, having someone like a coach to monitor our progress can help us to stay motivated and help ensure we don’t avoid the steps we need to take to achieve our goals.

    I personally have had good success with goals when I’ve made them specific and broken them down into smaller steps, along with having a vision of what the outcome will look and feel like.

    • David Stevens December 24, 2012, 12:16 am

      Hello Hiten,
      Thankyou for your comment and for calling in. Meaning is all powerful. When we get that right, we are well on our way. Thanks again for your kind words.
      be good to yourself

  • virginia urbach January 14, 2013, 10:57 pm

    Hi David yes thank you for this post. I find that since losing my husband nearly 2 years ago, I have more time for me but now I need to prioritize my “free” time. I have read that keeping a journal and writing my goals is important for it keeps me on focus. What do you think?

    • David Stevens January 15, 2013, 1:12 am

      Hi Virginia,
      Great to see you here. I find that it’s best to write down your goals. It re inforces the goal/s that you have set. Keeping a journal has worked for many. Writing down daily or weekly thoughts will provide a handy reference. It is a personal thing though, what works for one may not work for another. However, certainly referring back to the goal that you have set will assist with your focus. It’s not the only thing but it’s a start.
      be good to yourself