5 Questions that are vital to your Personal Development


I blogged recently about

20 Great Practical Questions (to get the best out of your Life)…..

Today, I want to delve deeper into 5 of these questions which I believe are at the heart of your Personal Development.

#  Are my dreams achievable or imaginary?

Dreams are a large part of your creative juices. Without them, creativity becomes a shadow, not a light. However, the dreaming is just one part of the whole equation. The dream is the spark. Following through on the dream keeps the flame burning. And following through with energy, planning and desire will go a long way in making your dream/s achievable.

Dreaming and just “wishing” your dream to come true, with no follow through, falls into the imaginary basket.

#  Do I see myself as being worthy of success?You have the power

To attract anything worthwhile in Your Life, you need to be open to receiving it. When you carry the burden of self imposed obstacles, barriers and closed thoughts then your Attraction meter reads very low.  I’ll clarify that. Your positive attraction meter reads very low. You will definitely attract … all the wrong stuff.

And this speaks very true of “success”, whatever that success may be. If you don’t see it  (being the positive stuff), then it won’t come to you. Believing that you are entitled to as much success in Life as anyone else prompts your sub conscious to act that out. This transfers into your conscious actions in forging your path toward the success that you desire.

 #  Am I prepared to ask for help to achieve my goals?

A lot of what we do is individual. It is human nature to continue on doing (whatever) and get the job done without feeling that you are bothering anyone else. While this is admirable, the folly is that having a partner or strength of community, solidifies your own position. I am not saying that you seek a “partnership” in everything that you do. It is however a strength to seek help when it is needed.

I was speaking of human nature  … it is also valid that people will gladly lend a hand when they see someone who needs it. (This is largely true in Australia therefore I am hopeful this rings true in your part of the world). Ask and doors will open.

#  What do I want my Life to look like in 12 months from now?

Not to get too far ahead of yourself however picturing how you want your Life to be in 12 months will make a difference to your Life today. Imagining and placing into action today, what you want to achieve at reference points in the future, quite simply “keeps the dream alive”. You are percolating, not stagnating. You are creating. And that’s a pretty good place to be.

Failing to even consider your Life beyond today, next week … will very likely leave you at the mercy of “whatever happens”. It’s fine to  go with the flow …  providing you are holding a very strong paddle. Considering, planning, actioning what you want to happen will see you in the right flow that suits you.

# If I fail, will I try again?

There are many quotes on ‘getting up again’ after being knocked down/out/back. The question you must ask of yourself “Will these quotes mirror my Life?” …

“Failure” is a word and an outcome, there’s no escaping that. How much power this word and the outcomes that will occur wield over you, is largely your choice. How many times did you fall down before you began to walk? … you won’t remember however it was plenty. And you didn’t give up, did you? Fast forward many years and you are faced with similar scenarios. You will fall down (fail) many times. I have. To develop and grow on a personal level, you must keep on trying.

Trying, changing, perservering … this will get you places. It’s easy to give up however that is when your growth stalls. Do you want that to happen to You?

I always say that asking the right questions opens the right doors. Are these door openers for you?

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  • Hiten May 1, 2013, 9:26 am

    Hi David,

    This was a wonderful post!

    For me, your second question really struck a chord. I guess this is because when I came to such a realisation and began to practice it through my attitudes and behaviours, I began to see the truth of how powerful it is. Indeed, we really do need to raise our inner game, until we have reached a stage, where good, wholesome and positive thoughts and beliefs are flowing through our mind-bodies, and like magic, we will begin to attract what we want in our lives.

    Thank you.

  • Alex Blackwell | The BridgeMaker May 2, 2013, 10:46 am


    I love the question, “What do I want my Life to look like in 12 months from now?” This fills me with passion, purpose and a sense of urgency to make progress every day! Thanks for the nudge.


    • David Stevens May 3, 2013, 12:19 am

      Hi Alex,
      Nudge given … This question is one of my personal faves. Great to see you here again.
      be good to yourself

  • Cathy Taughinbaugh May 2, 2013, 3:16 pm

    Hi David,

    Love this list, especially “What do I want my Life to look like in 12 months from now?” Taking a look at whether I want my life to continue on as is or to take action is so necessary to accomplish my goals. Thanks for the encouragement.

    • David Stevens May 3, 2013, 12:18 am

      Always happy to encourage you Cathy,
      Thankyou for contributing, appreciated as always
      be good to yourself

  • Glynis Jolly May 3, 2013, 12:57 pm

    Until recently, I could answer all but one positively. The one I was having problems with was the one asking what my life would be like in 12 months. That one was eluding me because, although I know what I want, it wasn’t a clear picture. Now it is, so I can answer that question with positive hope.

    • David Stevens May 3, 2013, 9:50 pm

      That’s great news Glynis,
      It’s a question that stumps many.
      Be good to yourself

  • Chim Aaron May 4, 2013, 9:30 pm

    I think these are 5 important questions. Perhaps the most important one is “If I fail, will I try again?” It’s truly remarkable how many successes were preceded by multiple failures. This is an unmistakable pattern in life that is easily observed time and time again. It’s not a cliche at all: it’s just the way life works. As you said, every toddler fails at walking several times.

    • David Stevens May 4, 2013, 10:02 pm

      Hi Chim,
      Thankyou for your comment, much appreciated. Yes, the success/failure merry-go-round … it keeps on happening. You have to know when to get off.
      Be good to yourself

  • Evelyn Lim June 11, 2013, 8:03 am

    At the start of the year, I made it part of my goal or objective to be happy. This means that I continually choose to focus on positive thoughts, rather than allow negative emotions to take charge. Just by being mindful about being joyful is definitely helping me lift my days.

    I like your idea about asking the right questions to open doors.

    Great article, David!

    • David Stevens June 12, 2013, 7:24 am

      Thanks Evelyn,
      I do appreciate your kind words. Asking the right questions can be an ‘art form’ however it’s certainly one worth practising. Keep on being Happy, Evelyn.
      Be good to yourself