5 Questions that will help you take the direction that is right for You


“Which direction am I heading in?” This is a question that I suggest you ask yourself regularly. Seeing that a New Year is now upon us, this question may have even greater relevance. Start with a clean slate. Check your personal compass, adjust the heading if necessary.

Or simply spend some time reflecting on where you are at right now…and where you would like to be at the end of 2013.

Either way, if you are unsure of your direction, here are five(5) questions that may help you decide or at least think about your current situation.

What do I enjoy doing?

Life is many things. One of the main ‘things’ is Enjoyment. What purpose is there in existing in an environment that lacks enjoyment? Whether that be work or play, you need to feel joy, satisfaction, pleasure in what you do. So if you are in a place at the moment where you feel ‘lack’, I would suggest you write down the things that you enjoy doing and the things in Life that give you Joy & pleasure & excitement. Once you have done that, check your list…is there any correlation with what you are doing now… or is there conflict? What are you missing out on?

Am I creating Excuses?

Why is this a step, you may ask? “Excuses” are a major hurdle to achieving anything worthwhile. Not money, not passion, not excitement, not effort…..Excuses.  Now these can be sneaky. We excuse ourselves from so much without realising. The subtle doubts, negative self talk…these will eat away at your confidence. Be aware of this and breakthrough the ‘excuse barrier’ and you will be taking a giant leap forward. A Life Coach can help you with this if your ‘excuses’ are not obvious to you.

What feels right?

Gut feeling/Intuition is real. You tend to “know” when things feel right or don’t feel right. If you are going down a path, whether by your own design or someone else is advising you to do so, and it just doesn’t feel right…then you are probably right. Our feelings are so strong and so important to us. It is wise to take notice of them & act accordingly.

Where is my focus? 

There is rarely a straight line to the end result when it comes to your  dreams and goals. Things will happen to throw you off course. This where your focus comes in. Expect obstacles. Expect hurdles. However, when you have focus on the next step, the next action and the desired end result…then any obstacles will be only temporary& you will be able to get back into stride without difficulty.

What is my dream?

Do you have any? Do you have a Big Picture of how you want your Life to be in 12 months, 2 years, 5, 10, 20? A dream or dreams gives us hope. They also give us a direction to aim at. Following your dreams is purposeful. It is exciting. Granted, the timing may not always seem right…then again, when is the timing right? Don’t put them on the backburner. Nurture your dreams & follow through.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Are you comfortable with your current direction? Do you need a re-think? Do you have a dream that lights you up?

Be good to Yourself


Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

# I also write at personalpower4me.wordpress.com


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  • Vidya Sury December 31, 2012, 4:49 am

    It is a very good time of the year to refocus and forge ahead. Thank you for the great tips, David. There’s something magical about the beginning of a brand New Year. Wishing you a joyous one!
    Love, Vidya

    • David Stevens January 1, 2013, 1:24 am

      Hi Vidya,
      Best wishes for 2013
      be good to yourself

  • Builder Adelaide December 31, 2012, 9:06 pm

    This is the only time I’ve been to your site. Thank you for providing more information.

    • David Stevens January 1, 2013, 1:23 am

      Thankyou for being here
      be good to yourself

  • Cathy Taughinbaugh January 1, 2013, 8:34 pm

    Great suggestions David to get us thinking before we set out. I love “What Feels Right.” Our instincts can tell us so much when we listen. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful new year!! xoxo

    • David Stevens January 1, 2013, 11:10 pm

      Thankyou Cathy for your kind words…and enjoy your 2013
      be good to yourself

  • Galen Pearl January 3, 2013, 5:31 am

    Great questions! In fact they affirmed for me that I am exactly where I want to be, doing exactly what I want to be doing. I am living my dream! Thanks for reflecting this to me.

    • David Stevens January 3, 2013, 10:22 pm

      Hi Galen,
      Living your dream is a special place to be…
      be good to yourself

  • Harriet Cabelly January 3, 2013, 3:12 pm

    Love your new site. Is this where you blog now or do you have two blog sites?
    Love your five questions. Excuses is key because when we admit to ourselves that they’re simply excuses we can then move beyond them. We tend to fool ourselves with our own BS/excuses. We must see through our own stuff that’s holding us back. Self-honesty is a Must.

    • David Stevens January 3, 2013, 10:21 pm

      Hi Harriet,
      Thankyou for calling in & commenting, much appreciated. I will still use ‘personalpower4me’ blog however not as much. I will concentrate on this site & develop it together with Newsletter & Coaching.
      be good to yourself