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What have you been putting off?

You know…..that thing.

Painting the bedroom. Getting your car serviced. Repairing the side fence (mine blew down in the storm the other day). Contacting a friend who you haven’t spoken to in a few months. Making a commitment to (fill in the blank…………………). Booking a Holiday. Helping with your children’s school work project. Telling your partner that you love them.

You know, “that thing”.

What stops you?

Probably a myriad of (things) excuses. And these get repeated…and repeated. Excuses then become “reasons”.Question1

If you could wind this back and ask yourself...What will happen if I don’t do this?, what type of view of the situation do you think you would have?

A different one, I would suggest. The above examples are just the tip of the iceberg however these ones can be considered all important. Therefore the outcomes for not doing them will be poor. So ask yourself this question …What will happen if I don’t do this? and see the situation in a different light.

You will see the reward in helping with your child’s school project. You will see the reward in taking a well earned holiday. You will see the reward in re igniting a dormant friendship. You will see the reward in confirming the relationship with your partner.

The reward comes from taking action, not from using an excuse.

This will also work if what you are putting off turns out to be not important at all… Simply ask the question. If it’s not important then either schedule it for a later date or wipe it altogether.

So, if you use this strategy of asking yourself “What will happen if I do nothing?”, you will interrupt your pattern of delaying taking action. That’s pretty simple.

However will that solve your problem of putting things off entirely?

Not by itself….

I have highlighted this strategy to get you started rather than doing nothing.  To get the thought processes percolatingMore work is required however, especially if you are a serial procrastinator.

Such as…..You need to choose to take action. You need to recognise what is important or not… These are for you to decide upon, or to seek help. 

So what’s holding you back from doing the things that need to be done? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please do me the honour of sharing this post on your favourite social media sites.

Be good to Yourself

David

Mid Life Guide. Coach. Listener. Motivator.

Inspiring Creativity & Purpose for Men & Women 40+

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  • Victor February 15, 2013, 12:21 am

    Hey David,

    Awesome post. You know, what usually holds me back from the things I know I want to do are my priorities. Many times I find myself choosing between professional responsibilities and personal ones. For example, I could very well sit down and write for my book, but when I face the task of choosing to sit down and write or spend time with my daughters, I’ll take the time with my daughters 10 times out of 10. So, there are a myriad of things I know I want to do and need to do, but when it comes to spending time with the family, everything else takes a back seat. So, it becomes very important for me to organize my time outside of family time so that I can maximize what I get out of that time. Your post is a great reminder to continue to stay organized so I can maximize what I get out of both my personal and professional time. 🙂 Nicely done David!

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    • David Stevens February 15, 2013, 1:35 am

      Thanks Victor,
      Your family is extremely important and get No.1 priority as they should. Yes, it’s our ‘work’ time or ‘outside family’ time that we need to prioritise in order of importance.
      Thankyou for your contribution.
      be good to yourself

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  • Hiten February 15, 2013, 2:31 pm

    Hi David,

    Excellent post with a beautiful question we can ask ourselves. As you say by considering what will happen if we don’t do what we need to, we open ourselves up to considering undesirable scenarios. This is a great beginning to get us started at making the changes we want to.

    Reply
    • David Stevens February 15, 2013, 9:55 pm

      Thankyou Hiten,
      Appreciate your thoughts and contribution
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Cathy Taughinbaugh February 15, 2013, 10:48 pm

    Hi David,

    Great reminder. I know I can sometimes put things on the back burner and I have to really ask myself why I’m doing that. Is it because it makes me uncomfortable, is it easier to do other things…? Taking action at the moment and not procrastinating helps me get more done. Have a good weekend!

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    • David Stevens February 16, 2013, 2:07 am

      Hi Cathy,
      Thankyou for being here. Asking ‘that’ question at least gets you to think…and hopefully take some action.
      Be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Betsy/Zen Mama April 12, 2014, 11:48 pm

    Hi David,
    I read this yesterday and knew that thing I had to get to… planting my spring vegetable garden. I dropped the laundry and cleaning and spent the day outside. It was heaven! Thanks for the inspiration!!
    xoxo

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    • David Stevens April 13, 2014, 9:32 pm

      I’m happy that I spurred you on to something inspirational Betsy.
      Enkoy a magic week.
      Be good to yourself

      Reply