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The definition of “Success” will vary from person to person. And it will likely vary depending on the stage of life that you are currently in.
The years between 40 and say 65 are often reflective of our level of “personal success”.
When you enter your forties, you are either building on what you created in earlier years or looking to create something [entirely] different.
Either way, your questioning thoughts may look something like this :
New horizons … how wide and far am I prepared to go?
Legacies to be left … what will I be remembered for? … by my family, my friends, my acquaintances
Personal achievements … what will make me proud?
Family …. how will I continue to care for them? What will they think of me?
Future retirement … will I be safe?
Purpose … what purposeful initiatives/actions will fulfill me? … and will they provide for myself and my loved ones?
And if you are venturing, or considering to venture, into ‘something new’ for your life, then some of the questions listed above, will have an exclamation! mark attached as well.
And it’s the exclamation! that excites you as well as fears you. Take a risk, be Bold … I hear your inner voice whisper.
Which leads me to the benchmarks+++++++++++
Risk taking a step or staying put … sameness is debilitating especially when you are ‘stuck’. You are often ‘stuck’ because you can’t get yourself to take a step “beyond” because you are afraid of what might happen. The “fear” outweighs any “reward” in your eyes. Pity. Taking a step doesn’t have to be lonely. You can seek help from someone who will step with you … guide you along the path that you desire.
Think Beyond … your thinking can be contained [or trapped] within a box … a box where the key has been lost. So your thoughts are restricted, they have boundaries. And when you send them out, looking for solutions, they bounce off the walls of this box and return to you as an echo … again & again. Thinking beyond will start to crack the walls of this “box” and penetrate into wider spaces. Solutions will become more abundant and your thoughts more vibrant!
Have a back up plan … Plan B is essential. All your effort goes toward your “something”. If that doesn’t work then what happens? You are a 40 something, you have a lot ahead of you. And a lot to excite you. Plan A may not work first time, Plan B can be a revisitation of Plan A. What I’m really trying to reinforce is this … don’t have the Big Master plan without any fallback. The ‘Master Plan’ may not be a step by step directory of how your life “will” be. It may be your major dreams, goals or aspirations or even being in the Big flow of Life.
The only ‘Safety’ is knowing your next step … Standing still is rarely a good option. As with my first point, knowing that you can take a step [with help if necessary], moves you from possible “stuck” to probable opportunity. There is little that is guaranteed in life. When things go awry, you need to step with surety to a place with more possibilities and go forward capabilities. Instead of hoisting the white flag of surrender, step away to your next safe haven.
Love what you do, Love who you are … a “no brainer” really. You can’t love everything that you do. However you can make a mighty attempt. When the love is there, the right flow of things follows.
To illustrate my point, flip this around. When you hate what you do, how does this make you feel? Apart from miserable that is. You are stuck in muck. There appears no way out. And that’s a poor position to find yourself in.
Find something that you love, that you are good at and everything will blossom. Simple? … not always. However, if you can’t move from your current “job” for whatever reason, look to re-frame it. Change your angle of perception. Drill down a bit for there may be aspects of your “job”, with a little polish, you can learn to love. Work on this, find the benefits. You’ve got to find some love here otherwise …………
And finally, “Love who you are”. Many have written on this subject, many who are better versed than I.
I have found that there is definite merit in loving who you are … it simply makes sense. The earlier you find this out the better. Because then you have the time to polish yourself and flourish into the Diamond that you are meant to be.
And we are all Diamonds, some just have different cuts.
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