5 strategies to break you out of your Mid Life Rut


Are you feeling that your life is like Ground hog day? The same stuff happening to you over and over again?

You are in a Rut and it’s getting deeper And you can’t get out.

Let’s do something about that! I’ve got some “food for thought” just for You to try.

These are not the only strategies to break out of your Rut. However for men & women over the age of 40, they are a great start. You are in the prime years of your Life and being in a Rut is not the place to be.

Why not try these on for size?Break out of Your rut

Do something outrageous

Guaranteed to shake you up. When was the last time that you let your hair down?  Went a little wild? Keep it legal but a little off the wall. Stretch out  that comfort zone until it bursts. Laugh, cry, hit the punching bag. Just let it out.

Take a day off to dream

Rid yourself of the staleness. Find a favourite spot and let your thoughts roam free. Take a note book with you and jot down the thoughts that spark your imagination …. or even the ones that don’t (at first).  Dream little or dream big, just give your mind something different to savour. It may take some working at however, give yourself the time.

Imagine when everything IS fine with your world

It might be a bummer at the moment but what if it wasn’t? “Picture” yourself in soon to be better times. Keep taking mental snapshots, make your pictures vivid. Repeat. Before you know it, you will be starting to take the steps to live it!

Write down 7 things that you would love to achieve in the next 12 months

Maybe this can be done on your dream day off? or spend 30 minutes or so simply writing down stuff. If you need more time, take it. Break this into as many sessions as you need because if your rut is deep then you will not be used to thinking any differently. Just “Imagine” if you need to. Go wild if you have to but write it down. This action will re inforce your thoughts & add some commitment to the process. Write down as much as you can that enters your head. You can make sense of it later.

Think like a 20 something

Your thinking may be “rusty”.  More than likely when you were in your 20’s, life was fast. Your thoughts were on the move, constantly. This was a time of many changes, you had to be ‘sharp’ otherwise opportunities went begging.

Today’s 20 somethings are no different except that change may be a little more fast paced.  There is no time for stale thinking. And you and I in our Mid Life years have less time to be stale. We need to stay sharp and enjoy our opportunities And the best times of our lives. So freshen up your thinking by going back to a time when you were sharper and fresher (it doesn’t have to be your 20’s, just a time when you were sharper).

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to share them.


Be good to yourself


Life Coach. Listener. Motivator.

# This post was refreshed January 30 2015

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Leave a Comment

  • Sandi Amorim February 8, 2013, 9:28 pm

    Love #1 – do something outrageous!
    In the past 6 months, I’ve gotten a tattoo, learned how to scuba dive and revamped my business. This caused my mother to call me and ask, “honey, are you having a mid-life crisis?’ Of course, I laughed. Kind of, I said, but not really a crisis, but more like a shift, so I totally resonate with this post David!

    • David Stevens February 8, 2013, 10:33 pm

      Great stuff Sandi,
      I like how you have used the word “shift”…that delivers so much more meaning. We do need to ‘shift’ on occasion…..healthy, revitalising. Mid Life rocks…
      Thanks for being here
      be good to yourself

  • Kausar Bilal February 9, 2013, 12:08 pm

    A vitalizing post at mid life years. Actually, it is a time to review your life and give it the desired direction. Sometimes, it takes to make major changes and crucial decisions, but one thing is for sure that it is never too late. And, anytime we can begin our life from a new point.

    • David Stevens February 10, 2013, 10:27 pm

      Thankyou Kausar,
      Hopefully your Mid Life is well. Thankyou for contributing, much appreciated.
      Be good to yourself

  • Lance February 10, 2013, 3:23 am

    A few years ago – my wife and I went skydiving. It definitely skewed toward the outrageous!! And….it ended up being a great experience…and a great way to get our own fires stoked on “what’s possible”.

    Really like the list you’ve created here!

    • David Stevens February 10, 2013, 9:47 pm

      Thankyou Lance
      Skydiving will certainly get the rush happening…I imagine. Glad you enjoyed!
      be good to yourself

  • Cathy Taughinbaugh February 14, 2013, 4:47 am

    Love this one David! “Write down 7 things that you would love to achieve in the next 12 months…..” is a great idea and I’m definitely going to follow up on that. It helps to focus and clarify your goals when you write things down. Thanks for sharing!

    • David Stevens February 14, 2013, 9:56 pm

      Hi Cathy,
      Yes, that one should spark the senses. Write down anything at first just to get yourself going….can then sift thru later and grab the ‘good’ ones.
      be good to yourself