40 – 60 an age when everything matters

 

This 20 year time line is the most pivotal in your Life. This is where dreams come to life.

They may have been born earlier however they are often realised from age 40 and beyond.

This is also where mistakes are made and lessons learned.

Tears will be shed. Smiles and laughter will be shared.

Goals will be set. Goals will be met. Goals will die.

Questions will be asked. Dreams will be shattered. Dreams will be built.

Purpose will be discovered. Jobs will change. New directions will be forged.

YES this is a time when everything matters.40 -60 This Matters Blog Post

I have another question for You.

If you have just turned 40/40 ish … * “what do I want MY Life to look like @50?”

And you can add 10 years to that if you are around the 50 mark and ask yourself...* “What do I want MY Life to look like @60?”

If you haven’t thought of this then these questions will put things in a different perspective, don’t you think?

You see, this period of time, between 40 and 60 can be AND should be, the most purposeful of your Life.

For this to be so, setting yourself timelines for certain achievement will be crucial. This matters.

For example:

You can have an overarching 5/10 year timeline where your Big Picture at that point will be (X). And within this timeline you will likely have intermediate timelines with separate goals all channeling toward your ultimate 5/10 year destination.

Imagine when you reach 50 or when you reach 60 and you haven’t set in place any plans for how you want your Life to be at that point.

How will you feel then?

The journey I believe, is much more enjoyable when you have a destination in mind.

That is … goals in place, dreams intact… so when you reach 50, you won’t be disappointed … when you reach 60, you won’t be disappointed.

Now, that journey may not be in a straight line, there will be detours however your destination should always be kept “in view”. This matters.

Make your time count for something. Enjoy the present moment, “view” what you want to be ahead for you, don’t look in the rear view mirror. What is behind you is gone.

When you plan your 5/10 year timelines, there is no need to look back and wonder why or why not.

The only time that you will look back and wonder “why?” is when you haven’t taken the time to set your direction and plan how to get there. And that would be a shame, wouldn’t it?

So, have You thought about how You want your Life to look like in 5/10 years from now? Do you know here to get there?. This matters.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

#This post was refreshed March 26 2015

 

Be good to yourself

David

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  • Fran Sorin March 15, 2013, 12:30 pm

    David –
    In indigenous cultures, dreams are thought of as being an important message. When you have a session with the Shaman, if he feels that your dream is off target, he helps you re-focus and find the dream that is meant for you ~ this happens at an early age- I think by mid- 20s.

    I have mixed feelings about what I culture tells us – to focus in on our dreams, have goals, and imagine what you want your life to be in 10 years. Some of the happiest periods in my life are when I’ve planned nothing and just allowed things to happen organically.

    Thanks for this post David. It motivates me to reflect on this subject more.
    Fran

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    • David Stevens March 15, 2013, 9:15 pm

      Hi Fran,
      This posting is designed to get you thinking … and I’m glad that it has. Thankyou for contributing, much appreciated.
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Alex Blackwell | The BridgeMaker March 15, 2013, 1:37 pm

    Hey David,

    I guess I’m right at the midpoint – 50 years old. I do feel a greater sense of urgency to do the things I want to do before it gets too late. But instead of feeling panic, I feel empowered to live the life I am meant to live!

    Alex

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    • David Stevens March 15, 2013, 9:14 pm

      Hi Alex,
      That’s a great feeling to have! Thankyou for being here…
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Cathy Taughinbaugh March 16, 2013, 1:59 pm

    Those middle years sound vital to reaching many of your goals. I changed directions during that time in my life from teaching to blogging and coaching. I enjoy the interactions with other people and having a cause that I care about.

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    • David Stevens March 16, 2013, 9:20 pm

      …and you do that well Cathy…stay on track
      Thankyou for being here and contributing
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Sandi Amorim March 17, 2013, 10:35 pm

    28 sleeps till my 50th so this post reached out and grabbed me! Beginning to create the next 5 years and while I see a few more grey hairs, I’m actually looking forward to what I create next.

    Great post David!

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    • David Stevens March 17, 2013, 10:58 pm

      Thankyou so much Sandi!
      You will enjoy your 50’s …I certainly have and I’m sure that your creativity will increase.
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Hiten March 18, 2013, 9:23 pm

    Hi David,

    Inspiring post indeed, my friend.

    I feel so lucky to have met you. Such posts are helping me so much to prepare for later on in my life and get the most out of this period.

    Thank you.

    Reply
    • David Stevens March 18, 2013, 9:52 pm

      Hi there Hiten,
      Thankyou for taking the time to comment and contribute. Your kind words are humbling. Thank You.
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Harleena Singh March 19, 2013, 5:51 am

    This is a very important post, especially for those who haven’t started thinking about life yet…about mistakes, goals, and dreams. As for me, life starts at 40, David! I often heard of this, but now do believe it’s true.

    What appears to me is that you spend your time experimenting, making mistakes, and trying to understand yourself in the first about 40 years of your life. After that, it’s time for consolidation, assessment, and then settling with a view of life, a path to follow, and leverage on the knowledge and experience gained in all those years by learning from your mistakes. I’d say you start becoming wiser after 40! Life becomes meaningful 🙂

    Eventually, by the time you’re 50 and 60, I believe one should be able to understand life fully, live it perfectly, and master the art of being happy. I think as you’ve pointed out, there needs to be a life plan.

    Though many don’t believe in going that far, but having aim, objectives, and goals only make your task easier, keep you satisfied and as you say, not disappointed – I agree with you that 40 to 60 is the most purposeful period of life! Thank you. 🙂

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    • David Stevens March 19, 2013, 9:34 pm

      and thankyou Harleena for your generous comment. There’s plenty of meaning in our lives and plenty of purpose. We can certainly cement the deal between 40 & 60 and enjoy the fruits of our labour, so to speak. Enjoy & thanks again for contributing.
      Be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Betsy/Zen Mama March 19, 2013, 9:23 am

    David,
    I just turned 50! I’m so looking forward to the next decade!! I feel like I’m able to move forward now with some of the dreams that just weren’t possible while raising kids. My mother always said that her 50’s and 60’s were her best years. And I’m hopeful that our youth inspired culture will change to appreciate elder wisdom!! 🙂
    Cheers!!
    xoxo
    Betsy

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    • David Stevens March 19, 2013, 9:31 pm

      Yes you did Betsy and again, congratulations. My fifties have been tremendous in so many ways and I am sure you will get the same pleasure. Best wishes & thanks for being here.
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • ute March 20, 2013, 7:31 am

    David, I am living more now that I am over 50 than ever before. I enjoy everything more, I live more consciously and I really enjoy life more. Financial restraints don’t let me do everything I dream of, but I am working on that. I certainly want to live life full and I am getting there. Thanks for this great post. With 50 we are stiilyoung enough to anything we like! Love Ute

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    • David Stevens March 20, 2013, 9:54 am

      Hi Ute,
      Terrific to see you here! Sounds to me you are truly enjoying Life … and that is a major plus … there will be some great times ahead for you.
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Tina March 20, 2013, 7:05 pm

    Hi David, just came across your blog. I’m early 50s,and while I’m happy to go with the flow your comment about planing the next 5/10 yrs has giving me something to think about. My daughter is a fantastic goal setter,has her own blog. Positivity Pimp. Thanks T.

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    • David Stevens March 20, 2013, 10:02 pm

      Nice to see you here Tina
      I’m glad this got you thinking. Hope to see you again.
      be good to yourself

      Reply
  • Carolyn Hughes March 20, 2013, 9:17 pm

    Mid life is a great time to really focus and put all your experience into use. I’d wouldn’t swop this time of life for any other age at all. Thanks for the reminder to make a good plan for the next 5/10 and to go for it!

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    • David Stevens March 20, 2013, 10:04 pm

      Hi Carolyn,
      Sounds like you are enjoying Life! … and that’s the way it should be. All the best to you, keep enjoying….. and thankyou for calling in.
      be good to yourself

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