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We’ve all heard about Goals and New Years resolutions. Each year around this time, we hear about them again. Assuming we all survive 21 December, you will very likely hear a lot more about them.
Goal setting is not everyone’s cup of tea, however there are great reasons to set yourself short, medium and long term goals. Now I’m not talking about any sort of goal.
What I would like to convey with this post is the ability to have goals that contain real meaning for you. Goals that you feel you must achieve as if your Life depends on it…and it probably does. Coming toward the end of 2012, it may well be timely to have a look at your current goals and/or set new ones.
These types of goals will define you as a person. These types of goals will be the stepping stones or building blocks for you to build the Life that you want. These goals will be a delight to work on, not a chore.
If there is to be a problem area that people will struggle with in setting goals and the process of working toward achievement…it’s a lack of ongoing motivation.
Setting goals with true meaning will add the vital ingredient that is often missing. I often ask my clients to list the reasons for each goal they wish to set. It may be one goal or several…it may be one reason or several. Then I ask what it will mean to them when they achieve it. Some are excited, some are unsure. If there is a lack of real meaning, the goal process will likely falter.
I find that a great barometer for achieving goals is the level of importance that one places on it’s achievement. If it’s a must achieve at any cost Life goal then the achievement is already assured. Most goals that are successfully achieved are done so at the setting stage. When the level of importance, true meaning and the desire are high, the level of excitement is maintained throughout the goal timeframe.
If however, a goal is set for ‘any old reason” or the goal is not really yours because you are setting one to satisfy someone else or you think that “you just have to do it” then failure is likely. Care… New Years Resolutions are a classic case in point.
You need to take ownership of your goal/s. When you can see yourself with the goal achieved (vision) then you are at least half way there. Being accountable for the steps that need to be taken is paramount…don’t let yourself down. If you find this difficult at times (and it does happen, you are only human afterall) then get someone to “monitor” you and celebrate your steps toward success with you. A Life Coach maybe?
“Setting the scene” for your goal achievement ignites your excitement and helps maintain this right through to the end. Owning your goal helps you nourish it and fire up your enthusiasm…you can’t lose.
I mentioned earlier that “Goals are not everyone’s cup of tea”. Fair enough. Goals get a bad rap sometimes. Many feel that they set themselves up for failure. So they decide that it’s too hard.
When set correctly, the right type of goals will get you heading in the right direction… and direction is ever so important here. When you know where you are going, the right goals will add the stepping stones for you to follow your path. I have found and so have a number of my clients, that designing a bigger picture of where you want to be, what you want to be doing, months or years down the track is great motivation. You then work backwards, setting & achieving the goals that are necessary to “fill in the gaps”. Always keeping the end game in mind is in itself a great motivator.
At the very least, know where you are going or work it out…get someone to help you if you are unsure. It will make a great difference to your Life.
So how have you found Goals? Have they worked for you? Have you had any difficulty achieving your goals? What successes have you had? Do you have plans and direction for a Big 2013? Please feel free to share in the comments section below.
Be good to yourselves
Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.
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