Do you have the “want to’s” or the “will do’s”?

 

Today I pose a question… several in fact.

I meet many people who want to do something.

However, that’s where they stay… in “the zone” of wanting to. They cannot convert the want to into will do.

Everything seems fine otherwise. Plans are made. Celebrations are looked forward to. Anticipation is in the air.

Decisions have been made.

Yet nothing happens.

Why do you think this is so?

Has this happened to you? Is it happening Now?

You have the want to’s but something is stopping you from going any further.

You’ve made the decision, now it’s action time. Time to press the go button. Instead, your decision “to do” becomes a misfire.

Questions bombard you such as…

“What if I am making the wrong decision?”  “How could I live with myself?”  “What if I lose money?”

“How could I face my friends and family?” “What will my partner think?”Thoughts7

This is often the major reason why you don’t go any further. The fear of making wrong decisions.

Now, whether your decision is “right” or “wrong” may not be apparent immediately. And what is your benchmark for your decision being right or wrong anyway? If you know that it is “wrong”, wouldn’t it make sense to decide not to do it? So if you don’t know that it is “wrong” and you want to do it, doesn’t it make sense to go and do it?

Also, some decision outcomes may not be known for months or even years, like buying realestate as an investment.  Has the investment increased in value? By how much? Are the rental returns  sufficient? These are not guaranteed outcomes however if you don’t buy, you will never know.  Getting married may be another one to place into this category.

So, making a wrong decision is not guaranteed. However what can be guaranteed is…

If you don’t make the decision to act then you may be living a Life of regret.

Now, that action maybe to go ahead or not to. That’s fine. At least the matter has been put to rest and you can move on.

So when you are really set on wanting to do a particular something, then act upon it. Especially when you have decided that you do want to do this. Don’t cop out, believe your excuses and join the “I wish I had done that” club.

So I suggest that you transform your mind into a will do factory. Get the job done. Clear your Life of the clutter of a myriad of decisions that have been put “on hold”… you will be a lot better off.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Be good to yourself

David

Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

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  • Betsy/Zen Mama January 25, 2013, 2:08 pm

    David,
    I really enjoyed reading your post! It really rings true for me as I am occasionally a procrastinator. Often when I finally get around to doing something I find it was much easier than I thought! I love the idea of a CAN DO factory!
    Thanks for a great post!
    xoxo
    Betsy

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    • David Stevens January 25, 2013, 10:47 pm

      and thankyou Betsy for being here…glad you enjoyed
      be good to yourself

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  • Cathy Taughinbaugh January 26, 2013, 1:36 pm

    “The fear of making wrong decisions.” can hold us make and I know it has held me back in the past. This year my goal is to get some projects completed that I’ve wanted to do. Thanks for the needed nudge. All the best.

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    • David Stevens January 26, 2013, 11:01 pm

      That’s great Cathy…nudges are good
      be good to yourself

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  • Hiten January 29, 2013, 7:23 pm

    Hi David,

    Wonderful indeed!

    As I was reading your post, I noticed you mentioned marriage. I’m at the stage of my life where marriage is the next big step and believe me mate, it seems risky!

    However, as you said, nothing is guaranteed and until we’ve done something we will never know. So I’m just going to go for it.

    Thank you.

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    • David Stevens January 29, 2013, 10:39 pm

      Go for it Hiten!
      I have my 32nd Wedding Anniversary in April…one of the best “will do’s” of my Life
      be good to yourself

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